Ok, for those of you that are new (hello), I used to do Thought Provoking Thursday every Thursday. Obviously its been awhile. The basis of TPT is I ask a question that doesn’t always have an easy answer, (hence, thought provoking). So I can’t say I will have one every Thursday again but I will try to do it more often. Without further ado. The question:
If you could ensure your kids never have one experience that you have had, what would it be?
My Answer: I don’t ever want my children to know self doubt. I want them to love themselves for who they are, imperfections and all. I have struggled most of my life with self esteem issues, and really don’t want them ever to know those feelings.
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I don't want them to experience the major depression that I battled with in my teens and twenties!
ReplyDeleteI am going with Mighy M on this one. I got severe depression around 5 years ago it was horrible. I pushed the world away from me and had nobody but me. I never ever in all my life wish that upon anyone especially my children.
ReplyDeleteI never want them to deal with any kind of abuse. Children never should have to go through what some do.
ReplyDeleteI don't ever want my kids to have to deal with the fear of losing everything. Last year I had lost my job due to the falling economy and we were on the verge of losing our home and everything. That was such a scary feeling that I don't ever want my kids to have to go through.
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I wish they could skip the teen years all together - or at least sail through them. I never want them to feel so alone and scared that they hide in the bathroom at lunch.
ReplyDeleteJust one... being made fun of. I know all kids endure it but I wish kids could just be nice to each other (and adults for that matter). I try to remind my kids each day to live by the golden rule, treat others the way you want to be treated. I don't think you can go wrong if you try to remember that.
ReplyDeleteAbuse. Sexual, physical or emotional.
ReplyDeleteI do agree with your answer. I pray that they will have their parents around for most of their lives. I lost my mom when I was 31.
ReplyDeleteI love this feature! I do a similar one called Thinkbox Thursday on my blog where I pull a question (not quite this thought provoking, however) from a box I have and write about it. I think I will steal your question from time to time, if that's ok!? As for this week's, I never want my children to experience the mental health struggles I have faced in my life. Depression and anxiety can really shake the core of your self esteem, skew your perspective on life, and lots more!
ReplyDeleteDivorce. My parents divorced when I was 7. The whole experience was crap. I am a stronger person now for what I had to go through with that as a kid/teen but getting here was hard. I don't want my kids to have to ever deal with it as kids or as adults.
ReplyDeleteIt is hard to pick just one. I'm also going with physical, emotional, or sexual abuse.
ReplyDeleteDivorce. My parents split when I was ten and both remarried pretty quickly. It was no fun at all.
ReplyDeleteI don't have kids yet, but I don't want them to ever have to deal with a divorce. Its horrible on a family.
ReplyDeleteI don't think i can pick just one. I've experienced so many horrible experiences in my childhood. Everything from witnessing domestic abuse between my parents, alcoholism, rape by a stranger, depression and divorce.
ReplyDeleteI think i would have to sum it up and say i don't want my children to experience hurt at such an extreme level caused by another human being.
The mental and verbal abuse that I received from my own father. No child should have to experience that.
ReplyDeleteMoney management! That's all I can say it speaks for itself!!!!!
ReplyDeleteMy kids are grown now but I hope they never have divorce to deal with - I did and it wasn't pretty.
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ReplyDeleteSomething I suffered at the hands of a babysitter's boyfriend. Please God protect them from anything like that!
ReplyDeleteI would ensure that my girls never experience the untimely death of one of their parents. I lost my father recently and though he had a good and full life, he was way too young to leave us. The loss has been profound for me and the sadness ebbs and flows through each and every day. I know that death is inevitable, but I hope very much that my husband and I live very long lives and are here for our girls for as long as possible.
ReplyDeleteI hope they never experience any more more abuse at the hands of those who are supposed to love them, their father or, later their spouse, or from other in positions of power, such as an employer. I also hopes that what they have already suffered from their father, because of my weakness, doesn't make them suffer from a divorce in their future - it really SUCKS!!
ReplyDeleteSelf-doubt sucks, but it's how we find our way to self-assurance. It's a process. Maybe more important than them not experiencing it, is having you and Dad there to help them experience it by encouraging and by explaining that it's a normal part of growing up.
ReplyDeleteI hope my children never feel like they can't please their parents and nothing they do is ever good enough. I want my kids to know that I'm proud of them and love them no matter what.
ReplyDeleteFor me it has to be chronic pain. It affects every area of your life. I agree with all of the comments, and I'd like to be able to protect my children from them. I have fibromyagia. Everyday the pain is there, in different places and there is absolutely no reason that I suffer this pain.
ReplyDeleteI posted mine, thanks for the great question:
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